Sometimes you need someone focused on you
and your life with ADHD
Let me know your story below !
I believe ADHD enables us to have some inherent traits and talents that far exceed the pitfalls and hiccups we encounter and commit everyday. To harness these skills and abilities, we really do need to shift our thinking about what our experience with ADHD means - to develop an ADHD+ mindset.
Because ADHD is so damn all-encompassing, it's really hard for someone without ADHD to understand and empathise with what it's like to know you have potential and promise but not be able to unlock it .... and all the other paradoxes of ADHD.
Now, I don't believe it's essential for all coaches to have experience in what the person being coached is trying to turn around, but I do for ADHD. I say this because ADHD is how we experience the world. It's not something that we dip into in certain contexts; it IS the context!
You and I need people who quickly get that context and empathise with what it’s like to
live and work in a world design without our minds in-mind.
Being diagnosed as an adult is also a different experience because a lot of the coaching needed is not so much about learning new things and ways of doing those things, but to actually undo the unhelpful habits and behaviours, the faking and masking techniques, etc that we've developed across our entire lives and to then wrangle the way we can hack things and devise work-arounds that we often don't even realise we've been doing all our lives.
ADHDers are masters of disguise and deception
- not evil, but clever influencers of how people perceive us -
and this is a talent we've honed every single day.
So, rather than stop it, it's about using those abilities as a strength.
Myself and many of the clever people I coach have found ourselves purposely setting ourselves up to fail so we can then hide that, which is often the only way we feel success. Weird, ironic, but often true.
Repeated self-sabotage takes real skill …. and we’ve got that in spades!
The late diagnosis is also made tricky with the grief for what we never were or might have been ...... but probably were never going to be anyway.
It's about accepting and acknowledging that we all needed to live our earlier lives undiagnosed in order to get to this point now and be able to deal with it and make something of this new knowledge of ourselves - because that's all diagnosis is: Knowledge.
Nothing has changed, which means you're now in total control of what you can and want to change - this is what being ADHD-positive means. How good is that?!?
What can you expect to get?
A 30min Discovery call with Callum in order to best set you up ahead of your first session
An initial bundle of 5x 60min Zoom sessions at a frequency to suit you, your situation and where you’re at - could be weekly, fortnightly or monthly. We can probably be flexible on this too
A resource kit to track what we cover so it’s easy to work on things between sessions
What do my coaching clients say about our time together?
“OMG Callum has a knack for seeing what’s going on for me and doesn’t let me off the hook when I try to ignore what I know I need to do. Bastard!”
“I couldn’t wait for each session to come around as Callum seems to know what its like to be me, so I don’t hold back. I actually feel sorry for him as I download so much! Poor guy. Sorry Callum, but you asked!”
“He challenges my beliefs and perceptions of who I am, what ADHD is and what I can make it become for me”.
So there you have it - if any of the above sounds valuable to you, I’d love to join you in discovering your ADHD+.
Take care and talk soon
Callum